Being pregnant with our third child has really been such a powerful mix of emotions. Mostly at the forefront has been the excitement and joy of adding another little person to the mix– and that really is true. I would hope by now you know that I tell it like it is! But I will also tell you that we are not, I repeat NOT, logistically prepared to have a third child. I already wrote a blog post about how we have zero baby or pregnancy gear left. Additionally, we have spent all our money on our new house (anybody who has bought and then renovated a home within the same year knows exactly what I’m talking about) LOL…but also crying. Lastly, we were not planning on having a third child when we purchased said house– and there happens to be no room for a nursery for the baby. Logistics are not the most prominent reason to do or not do something, and thus here we are. Ha! But today I wanted to talk a bit about one of the biggest elephants in the room– what are our sleeping arrangement plans for this baby in a house with no room for a nursery? I’ll take it from here, Joan!
I’m a strong believer that the kids have to adjust to the rhythms of what works for you as a family, and not the other way around– and I don’t at all think that kids “should” all have their own rooms. Nor do most families have the room for each child to have his/her room! Actually, I believe that sharing a room for a while will be really helpful for Marlowe and Major long term in learning to adjust to another person’s space and another set of needs besides their own. I also expect there to be some complications at times. For example, whenever M and M currently “sleep over” it takes them on average an hour longer to fall asleep, since they giggle back and forth and talk for a while. Also, if one gets sick, or has a cough, or needs night time attention, I’m sure that they will wake each other up and create more of a disruption than they currently do in separate bedrooms. All I can say to this is C’est La Vie! Here is an overview of our five year sleeping arrangement plan…
- Major’s current bed gets put in storage, glider and crib get put in Major’s former room
- Major’s former room becomes our Nursery!
- Marlowe’s bed gets put in storage, and we buy some kind of bunk bed situation for Marlowe’s room
- Major’s clothes and belongings get combined with Marlowe’s and closet/drawers are adjusted for him.
- When the new baby is at an age where he can be transitioned to a big boy bed (We did this with both other kids at around 2-2.5), Major’s bed will come up from storage, and we will be putting another identical bed in the room for the boys to share.
- Marlowe will have her old bed put back in her room, and will no longer share
- Cue all the problems I’m not thinking of. LOL.
So there’s my big plan! I would love your advice for having two young kids (who didn’t previously share) sharing a room, if you have any pearls of wisdom!
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