I got a brand new engagement ring for Christmas! Ok, well, maybe not brand new: it’s the same beautiful diamond Kyle proposed with…and the setting I always wanted! I actually went for a really big change, and since so many of you guys wanted to know more details about the process, I decided to write a blog post to share all about it.
The entire idea started when my engagement ring band cracked for the third time in October. I had already gotten it repaired twice (we’ve only been married for seven years), but every few years or so there would be an issue with it. When I took it in to be repaired this last time, the jeweler told me that the style of the band was to blame. He explained that a big issue (for active ladies) with infinity diamond bands is that they can crack from the pressure over time. My band was even particularly thin so the issue was worse. The jeweler told me that at some point, it would be smart to reset my band so that the diamonds didn’t go all the way around, or to get a thicker band. I left my ring to be fixed anyway, but I brought the issue up with Kyle later that day.
I thought it would be a longer conversation, but he just said “Well, I think you should just reset your ring anway. We were so young when we got engaged, and I didn’t ever ask you what you wanted beforehand. I think you should redesign it and get exactly what you want.” I was shocked! I mean, I always considered the setting kind of emotional, especially for him, and I mentioned that. But he just laughed it off and said it was time to investigate something new. And then he had a really genius idea and added, “And we can keep the original setting and put a pretty stone in there to keep as a family heirloom for the kids!” Heart eyes galore.
My original engagement ring is platinum, eternity band, 2.5 carat round brilliant cut diamond. The gallery of the ring is what made it really special, though: Kyle put my name in cursive in it! It’s kind of cool as an heirloom because there is a literal inscription of the original owner, which will be really sweet as the generations pass by. I love the idea of saving it for future generations to enjoy and even propose with!
I went in to a jeweler that week to investigate settings, and I’ll be honest that at first it was totally overwhelming. I kind of felt like I was cheating on my engagement ring! LOL. At first I thought about keeping the overall ring design the same, but making the diamonds stop halfway around. But I didn’t like that because it just felt like a strange imposter version of my old ring. I also started second-guessing the platinum. If you are familiar with my blog, you know I wear gold jewelry ONLY. Well, once in a blue moon I’ll wear platinum but nearly never! And the type of gold I wear the most is rose gold. After trying on some rings, I spent a week on Pinterest scouring solitaire settings. I realized that what I wanted was a simple setting that was still elegant and felt modern, with the diamond set low against the band. And dare I go for Rose Gold?!
I went back to the jeweler, and they drew up a few plans. I had them make the band thinner and a bit rounded, and had them add a tiny bit of intrigue to the gallery but not much. I LOVED the design of the ring, but I still wasn’t sure which metal I wanted since the rendering on the computer doesn’t communicate metal tones very accurately. I was worried that the rose gold would be too pink, or too much. Would I get sick of it?!
The next step was trying on a wax model of the ring setting, with a cubic zirconium diamond set in it that was the same size as my own diamond. The wax was GREEN…so talk about confusing me even more about the metal! LOL. But I loved the ring and how it looked on my hand and decided to just take a leap of faith with the rose gold. I was nervous but excited!
The hardest and weirdest part was not having a ring on my finger for the next month. I kept switching out other rings I had in its place, but nothing felt right. On Christmas day, Kyle gave me my new ring…and it was PERFECT!!! I gasped when I opened the box. I felt like I was getting engaged all over again! But this time it really was with my dream ring and my dream setting. When I slipped it on my finger it felt like it had been a part of the family this whole time.
I couldn’t be happier with how it turned out, and I wanted to share the closeup pics with you today! I hadn’t noticed when the ring was being designed, but I actually think that the setting of this ring has an “E”, “V”, and “A” in it if you look closely! How crazy, right? I haven’t gone on yet to replace the diamond in my original setting with a stone– but I think I’m going to do pink sapphire when the time comes.
I get a lot of questions about the other rings in my stack, so today I wanted to share the details!
- Rose Gold & Diamond eternity wedding band: Kyle and I had our wedding bands custom made at a little jeweler down the street from our old apartment in Santa Monica.
- Blue Nile thin diamond eternity band: I just loooove this band so much. It’s super thin and gorgeous, and mixes up the look of my wedding stack so nicely.
- Rose gold Sydney Evan “Love” ring. This ring gets knocked off all the time, but the original is obviously the best! Kyle gave this to me as my Push Present when I had Marlowe. I love how it stacks with my other rings.
Have you ever reset your engagement ring? I’m curious what your experience was like!
Photographs by Julia Dags.