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Major is 3

Eva Amurri Martino's son Major turns 3

My darling boy is three years old tomorrow! Recently I’ve felt as though time is just flying with him– it’s seemed like he has aged a year in the past few months. Or maybe it’s just because I know he’s not the baby of the family anymore…I’m not sure.  All I know is that it’s bittersweet and I’m feeling extremely emotional about it! We’re having a birthday party for our sweet Major James tomorrow at our house– but I thought today would be a good one to share a special letter I wrote for him on his third birthday.  I hope to write and save one every year in a box, and to give them to him for his 18th birthday.  The idea of him opening that box one day makes me so happy!

Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday

My Sweetest Major Boy,

Oh, how the time has flown.  When I think of you and your sweet, mischievous spirit, I think immediately of the two biggest lessons you’ve taught me in your short but powerful three years: Trust and Respect.  First, Trust.  Bringing you in to the world was like a prayer– I spent those nine months on my knees, broken by the grief of the baby I lost before you, and so full of wonder, of fear, and of hope for the life growing inside me anew. I had so many fears then. I feared that I would never get to hold you in my arms, and, worse still: I feared that once I held you I wouldn’t know how to love you.  My boy, my Rainbow Baby, my second child.  My unknown, in a grey world. You forced me to trust every step of the way.  You made me trust my body and its journey, you made me trust you and your perseverance, and you made me trust in the Universe’s bigger plan for me.  This is still one of the greatest lessons of my life, and I owe that all to you. It could have only been you to teach me that, sweet boy, because when you finally came Earthside, I looked at you and I knew such an instant, pure Love that it knocked my breath from my body. 

You are so easy to love, so sweet, so gentle in your spirit.  I love your eyes that smile first, before the rest of your face can catch up.  I love your guffaw of a laugh, that is so contagious that your sister can’t help but laugh with you even when she’s mad. I love your skinny little arms and legs that still wrap so tightly around me when I pick you up first thing in the morning.  I love those long fingers of yours that remind me of the first time I laid eyes on you every time I see them. But as much as these things– or even more than them– I love your spirit. It is SO unique, and I feel that I learn from it every day.  You are so gentle and so stubborn at the same time.  You claim your space in this world with zero apology, and nobody (not even me) can make you do anything you don’t want to do.  Raising this quality in you has been my biggest challenge as a parent so far.  When I first encountered it, I didn’t know what to do. Here was this small, sweet boy, who knew exactly who he was and what he wanted…and no grown up, even one he loves so deeply, can ever convince him of something he doesn’t feel to be true. 

I’ve banged my head against the wall numerous times, I’ve given myself time outs so I don’t yell, I’ve walked away, tried threatening and stern warnings.  But my secret, of course, is that I’ve never been more impressed.  You know yourself better at three than I did at twenty three.  It’s not a fight with you, it’s not a protest, it’s just that you are you, and you refuse to be anything or anybody else.  I have so much respect for your knowledge of self, Major. I’m in awe of it, actually. No matter how crazy it drives your dad and I when we struggle at times to get our exact agenda done with you, I hope you keep your steadfastness in your truth.  It’s something that will get you far in life, and as long as you keep your sweet soul operating right next to it, I know you will be just fine.  

Recently, when I ask you to do something (grab a book for me, put on your shoes, hold your back pack) your answer isn’t just “Yes.” I still don’t know where you picked it up, but now you say “Of course, my Darling.” I want to sob every time you say it. You old little soul, with a heart of gold.  You make me deliriously happy, you make me laugh, you make me feel so loved, and you make me trust in a greater plan. Every day.  There would be no me without you.  You rebirthed me just as I birthed you, and I will never forget it. Thank you for healing such a dark time in my life and for bringing so much joy to our life as a family. We adore you beyond measure and we are SO excited to celebrate your bold, beautiful three years.  Wishing you every happiness and adventure, today and always. Happy, happy Birthday!

Yours,

Mama. 

Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major holds a handful of balloons for his 3rd birthday
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major blows out the candles on his birthday cupcake
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major blows out the candles on his birthday cupcake
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major blows out the candles on his birthday cupcake
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major blows out the candles on his birthday cupcake
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major blows out the candles on his birthday cupcake
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major blows out the candles on his birthday cupcake
Major Martino eats his birthday cupcake
Eva Amurri Martino's son Major is 3

Photographs by Julia Dags

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  1. Irina Visan says:

    Oh gosh, Eva! You have such a way with words and with your babies – I am forever in awe! Happy Birthday for sweet boy Majie! I am so excited to see him becoming a big brother as he is so so sweet with Lowie. I’ve said this before but you lucked out with these perfect babies (and they did too with mom and dad). Lots of love!!

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  2. Robyn Mizell says:

    Happy Birthday Major “Bubba” I hope you have the best day ever!!! Eva a big hug. Thank you for sharing Marlowe and Major’s greatest adventures with us. Can’t wait for Baby #3 to join the bunch. Hugs Robyn

    10.18.19 Reply
    • Brigit says:

      Hi Eva, Happy Birthday to dear Major. He is such a beautiful little boy. Beautiful and articulate letter ♥️💕🥰

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  3. judi says:

    CRYING!!! So beautiful! I cracked up at the part of him saying, Of course my darling!

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  4. Samantha P says:

    I love how you do these letters <3 We do something similar. Ever since my 6 year old daughter was born, my sister in law gathers letters from our family every birthday and makes it into a book to give to her on her birthday each year. When she gets older, she will have books full of letters from her loved ones. She now does it with my son as well.

    It was extra special for each of them this year as my father in law passed away in April. They will now have letters that he wrote to them in their earlier birthdays to look back on.

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  5. Jenna says:

    And now I’m sobbing at work 😩😩Such a sweet letter

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  6. Selena says:

    Sobbing! I hope you know that we all know how special Maj is too. Happy Birthday Major!! 💗💗

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  7. Jessica says:

    oh my goodness, way to bring the waterworks eva!! My son just turned 2 and this hit me right in the feels. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Grace says:

    Awww Mama! Beautiful letter! It resonates so much with my 3 year old… he also says “claro mi amor” when I ask him to do something (and he is in the mood of course lol). Knocks me dead with love every time and have no clue where he picked it up. Often think he is an old soul as well. So determined and precocious little man. Happy birthday to your precious Major boy! Blessings to you and your family today and always.

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  9. LaTasha says:

    I can’t stop 😭 that was such a beautiful letter 💙 Happy 3rd Birthday Major 🥳🎂

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  10. Caitlin Dunbar says:

    Beautiful Eva!! He does seem older of late. What a wonderful little boy Major is. Happy Birthday Major ♥️

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  11. Gabi says:

    I read this letter with tears in my eyes. This beautifully written letter hit me hard as I count down the days to meet baby #2. The unconditional love you have for your son can be felt in this letter. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  12. Jessica says:

    Happy birthday to the handsome little guy! Loved this letter! Xoxoxo

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  13. Cesilie says:

    This is beautiful! Happy Birthday to Major. I love your letter writing idea. Thank you for continually being a light in the world and sharing yours!

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  14. Molly says:

    Oh my goodness – all the tears! The MOST beautiful words!! What a little gentleman with the “Of course my darling”! Happy Birthday, Major Boy!!!

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  15. Suzanne Moore says:

    I live for your posts about him – there is something about Major that just makes me want to eat him up! He reminds me of my nephew and my own son, both now in their twenties, and both absolutely adorable like Major. I love that you write letters to him and he will love that when he’s older. I read my son journal entries I made about him as a baby and we both laugh and love that time together. You’re doing a great mama, keep up the good work!

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  16. Jodi F says:

    You should have labeled this NSFW because I’m bawling at my desk. Thank you for sharing this beautiful letter! Happy birthday to Major!

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  17. Carmen Ongay says:

    Feliz Cumpleaños Major 💙🎈

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  18. Dana says:

    I love how pure your letters are.

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  19. Corinna Garcia says:

    Now I know why your post made you cry last night as you were writing it. Made me cry too. I’ve told you a bunch of times on DM how special Major is to me and brings me such joy to see his sweet face on IG or IG stories. I can hardly believe he’s officially 3 tomorrow. Happiest of Birthday’s Major

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  20. Deb Reed says:

    Yup, I’m crying in my coffee now. You are the BEST MOM!!!

    Being a Mom was not in the cards for me, I love being Auntie Mame. Once we know what we’re doing, life happens and we roll with it…

    Thank you for sharing your life journey with all of us .

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  21. Debbie Hovey says:

    Wow! Beautiful letter. Happy 3rd Birthday Major 🙂
    of course my darling just killed me!!

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  22. Pearl says:

    “Of course, my darling.”

    A three-year-old should not be this charming! So adorable.

    10.25.19 Reply