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It was 10am the morning after my wedding. The evening before had been a blur of Love, Rain, Joy, Renewal, Laughter, and absolute disbelief on my part that I had truly found my Happily Ever After (A tall order when your lifestyle brand is literally named as such). I felt like the luckiest woman in the world. I was on Cloud Nine. Sorting through images with my wedding photographer to send to People Magazine (a longtime “friend” who has shared lots of our personal family news over the years with the public), I was gasping in emotional disbelief at the photographs. Every bride knows that feeling, of looking at images of the moments you want to remember forever and seeing everything you were experiencing in that moment captured so beautifully. There is nothing better. Even the rain, which we had wished and prayed away, had come through like a paid actor and made every image so moody and romantic and lovely. You could see the happiness of our whole family on our faces. I felt beautiful and exactly like myself.
We sent off the images, and the magazine wrote back saying they loved them so much and would be releasing the Instagram post with their favorites. We were so excited to share a glimpse of our perfect day with the world. The post went live, but I didn’t see it right away. We were too busy enjoying our day after brunch with our guests and hugging everyone goodbye. When I finally checked in on the post to see it, I was so taken aback by the fact that it was already viral….and for two reasons completely out of my control: My Breasts.
I’ve always been naturally very large-chested, and my breast size fluctuates with my weight (as real breasts often do). I am a mom of three, and breastfed all three kids, so the size fluctuation only continued over the past 10 years. Are my breasts the same perkiness they were at 20 years old before they sustained human life three times over? Definitely not. Do I care? Some days more than others. But my body isn’t something I’m ashamed of, and moreover (as any person with huge breasts knows) the more your decollété is exposed and opened up, the more flattering your clothing is to your whole figure in general. I had purposefully gone into my wedding dress shopping wanting to show my figure and really celebrate myself as a woman– body parts included. Sexy and Elegant were two words that I mentioned at every dress appointment. It had never occurred to me that people I don’t even know would find my body so offensive, and especially that they would care so much about what I would choose to wear on my own wedding day.
But here I was, staring at hundreds of cruel comments: “Yeah strapless dresses aren’t for everyone 😶”, “Awful, inappropriate dress”, “Awful dress!!!! So unflattering! Put them away!”, “That’s the weirdest display of tatas my eyes have ever seen”, and perhaps the most common sentiment: “DROOPY BEWBS”. I felt hot tears spring to my eyes in a way that brought me right back to Middle School. Here were people I didn’t even know and who didn’t know me, spending time and energy typing something that they hoped would bring me one thing and one thing only: Shame. And for a second, it worked. It wasn’t what they were saying per se, I’ve had much more horrible things directed at me on the internet, but it was the yucky feeling of knowing that there are people out there (and lots of them!) whose immediate reaction upon witnessing my little family’s joy was to try to hurt us. I was being picked apart by strangers for things I try to never qualify about myself (what my breasts look like in clothes), because I’m a human being just trying to feel beautiful, be a good person, raise my kids, and enjoy my life. Perhaps stupidly, it had never even occurred to me that people would have such a strong reaction to what my body looked like in a dress I picked for my own wedding.
When you are processing this type of emotional aggression from strangers, it is so unsettling. I could never in a million years imagine seeing an image of a person living their happiest moment and want to tear that to pieces publicly. Even if I hated them, or everything about what they were wearing, or doing, or whatever. How embarrassing to be the kind of person who would, and who DOES. I really sat and thought about this for a while, and realized that the problem here was them. It is the nature of fear and self-loathing, and insecurity and rage– the impulse to destroy Joy. Imagine what that does to somebody on the inside, and in a way that will only ever truly hurt THEM. I stopped feeling sorry for myself and started feeling sorry for those people. And right around when that feeling was hitting, somebody texted me about Olivia Culpo.
Olivia Culpo is a very successful, stylish, gorgeous, Influencer who happened to marry the love of her life on the same day that I did. I actually had been following the lead up to her wedding on Tiktok (she had the most fun-looking Bachelorette party!) and didn’t even realize that we were getting married on the same day. And she even had picked one of my favorite places as her venue! A friend of mine had sent me a link to the Vogue reveal of Olivia’s wedding look with the most simple text under it: “See? You can’t win” I clicked on it, and immediately saw Olivia looking breathtaking in what can only be described as the exact opposite of my own wedding dress. Very covered, simple with no embellishments, a princess skirt and long sleeves. The comment section held similar cruelty: “Is she a Nun?”, “I was expecting more”, “I don’t ever comment but felt like I needed to this dress is hideous and a shame because she is beautiful”, “There are ways to go classy and not look like a commune milkmaid”, “Dress needs more fabric. Maybe a hood”.
Olivia had mentioned in the article that she wanted to be modest for her wedding day (She accomplished this), didn’t want her bridal look to exude Sex in any way, shape, or form (She also accomplished this), and she was exuding true confidence and peace and happiness in every image I scrolled through. She had done what she had set out to do, and her day was absolutely perfect for her and for her new husband. When I looked at the images of Olivia on her wedding day (and I don’t know her at all by the way), I wasn’t seeing how right or wrong her dress would be for ME, I was seeing a woman who was stepping gracefully and with power into the next chapter of her life– and who was doing it on her own terms, on HER DAY.
I kept scrolling in shock at the comments, with the lightbulb going off in my brain like a rocket launch: WE ARE COMPLETELY F*CKED!! What has society come to, when you can neither be sexy elegant, nor modestly elegant, on your own terms, at your own wedding? Two women got married on the same day clothed vastly differently, and neither was “right”. Neither was good enough. Both made a mistake. Both should feel ashamed. Or, at least if you spend any time on the internet, that’s what we were supposed to think. If I was a “Whore” and she was a “Nun”, how does anybody win? What is winning these days? If there are two women getting married the same day, each feeling beautiful and exactly themselves….isn’t that the prize?
“Boobgate” quickly went viral (If you were shocked by this considering the other much more newsworthy happenings in the world lately, I would agree with you), and I heard my breasts in my wedding dress being debated in different countries and various languages. Somebody sent me an article that Betches released weighing in on the “scandal”. The author was basically as shocked as I was over the hoopla, but she hit on something that I had been thinking about it as well: How Anti-Woman are some women who won’t allow other women to be themselves? And if that sounds like a tongue twister, it is. A brain twister, natch! I think about my daughter’s generation and shudder at the thought that they are growing up at a time when women’s bodies are STILL such a battle ground. And not only their bodies, but their minds! Their wardrobes! Their sensibilities! How do we expect to gain power and equality when we won’t even let each other live our best lives?! Why is one woman’s vision so threatening to somebody they’ve never met?
It is imbued in our culture the saying of a wedding as a Bride’s “special day”. It’s almost a societal joke that a Bride gets a free pass to have exactly the day she wants. But how ironic (and yes, it also rained on our wedding day), that the one thing we can agree on as a culture is the very thing that infuriates us the most when it isn’t exactly how we thought that Bride should do it? It brings me back to Motherhood and the Mom Shaming that runs rampant within that experience. The pressure to all Mother the exact same, the audacity to judge when one woman’s Motherhood looks different from your own. Sadly, it’s the tale as old as time. I should have known a wedding isn’t just a wedding. As a public figure, I’ve developed a thick skin. “You put yourself out there, you should expect the commentary you get”. as Trolls so eloquently remind me at times. But when I experience the zero-sum game of sharing special moments, only to be met with why I’ve somehow “done it wrong”, it mostly makes me worried for all of us.
There is nothing in this world that is better the more it appeals to EVERYONE. In fact, if one tries to please too many in creating anything, there is literally nothing less appealing. Is watering down who we are, smoothing the edges, and climbing into a box really going to get us where we want to go? I don’t think so. Part of what makes us stronger as women IS our differences: our varying points of view, our strengths, our fears, our ambitions, and our diverse experiences. We’re not supposed to be the same. We’re certainly not supposed to look the same. I would have expected Social Media to increase our tolerance of others. Confronted by so many different people outside our communities, with access to different personal points of view and ways of life– you would think that people would be less shocked or upset by differences. In fact, what I’ve found, is that Social Media threatens to beat us down into being the same. Please everyone, don’t stand out. Don’t be too sexy, but be feminine. Don’t look old, but don’t try too hard to look young. Don’t be too skinny or too fat. Be confident, but if you’re too confident that’s not ok either. And if you dare to display any of this on social media, watch out, because somebody will certainly let you know. It all feels vastly overwhelming to navigate. The Barbie Movie put all of this much more eloquently than I do here, but the sentiment is the same: it is impossible to be a Woman.
I don’t really have a mission statement here, nor do I have an answer. But I do have a message. Maybe it speaks to you: DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE. When you felt beautiful? YOU WERE. When you felt like a woman? YOU WERE. When your body felt like it was doing what it was supposed to do? IT WAS. You don’t need anybody’s permission to make the choices you make for yourself. And when people feel something about those choice? Well, that’s none of your business.
(Thank you to Kim Kassas for designing the only dress I could see myself wearing on my wedding day. It was perfect. And thank you to Taralynn Lawton for capturing our joy so beautifully. I will never forget the feeling of my dreams coming true.)
Both brides looked equally beautiful and joyous. The only one to miss the mark is the viewer (or perhaps voyeur) who tries to twist a beautiful moment the bride has graciously invited the world to share in to anything but that.
You looked beautiful and more importantly, happy. I enjoy your content and have observed silently for a while. Times and comments like these made me want to say to you out loud what I say every time I enjoy your content…you’re killing it sister.
Thank you for sharing this Eva! You did look beautiful (and clearly felt that way), which is the part that actually matters!! You are so right, how sad that our society can’t even just let someone celebrate their special day without all the crap commentary.
Beautifully written. Ir still shocks me every time when someone takes precious time to comment negatively on a woman’s body. I grew up (and taught my own children) to be kind to self and others and to “do you” no matter what that looks like. You embraced your body and your style and looked lovely doing so.
F the haters and keep enjoying this wonderful thing called life.
Well said Eva! You and your entire family were glowing. Everyone was smiling, happy, and enjoying the magnitude of the day…rain and all. 😊 I’m sorry you had to deal with and read what the keyboard warriors felt the need to say. Who gives them the right?
#1 people are dicks
#2 your boobs looked awesome
#3 oh my god women can wear what THEY want
You can’t swing a dick without hitting someone’s opinion about womens’ bodies. Always. Here we have two ends of the “spectrum” in terms of wedding apparel and both got it “wrong”! I think the takeaway here is that you should do what makes YOU happy. What other people (literal strangers) think is none of your business. (I loved both of these wedding looks btw).
Your wedding dress was perfect for you and that’s what should matter. The policing of women’s bodies and how we choose to show them or not is so disgusting. I also have a very large chest and have been told since I was a teenager what I should and shouldn’t wear because of my breasts. Finally in my late 30’s, after 4 kids, I’m in a place where I say F that, I’m wearing what I want and what feels good! If you don’t like what we’re wearing just don’t look. Great post. You hit the nail on the head. It’s about trying to keep women small and quiet and insecure because god forbid we be happy and confident and loud about it the world seems to think!
Eva, you looked radiant and so happy on your big day! I commend you for writing this article and you are absolutely right. The focus on your body in that dress instead of the inspirational and weight of what the dress/moment symbolizes, baffles me! I hope you post you were wedding dress photo once a month to keep their panties in a bunch and fuck them all!!
“typing something that they hoped would bring me one thing and one thing only: Shame“
This sentence gut checked me. You are exactly right, that is exactly what they want us to feel. I have no idea why and I have no answers. Like you, it mostly just makes me sad.
Great article with so many great points.
I’ve always loved and tried hard to live by the line in the song Garden Party…. Can’t please everyone, so ya gotta please yourself! 💜💜
People are terribly rude. I am amazed at what they say under the anonymity of the Internet…well, not really! I had my thoughts about your gown… but good or bad, I would never voice them! Any negativity is only expressed for one reason…to make you feel bad and to make the person commenting feel superior. Neither is a positive…which is why I keep my opinions to myself!
I just love the sentiments in this post and agree with every single point you made. I’d also have to imagine that, if women are writing these things online, they’re likely also speaking them out loud, and may be doing so in front of kids. We have to do better not just for ourselves, but for future generations!
“I will never forget the feeling of my dreams coming true”. Goosebumps. That’s all that matters when it boils down. Thank you for sharing your day with us, even if some people had a hard time with it.
Eva,
I 100% agree with everything you said!!! We always hear fierce women….hold each other up and the like……social media seeks to do that and destroy it at the same time. We are F*$@÷$.
What any one person does or does not do is for themselves, nobody else. We can share it and be proud of it, glory in it etc. The fact that people feel they can tear any other person down does speak volumes about them.
You revel in your body,joy,happiness,motherhood and marriage!!!!! Here’s to holding each other up the right way. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You look stunningly beautiful in your wedding dress. All the haters online are probably just jealous that they either: don’t have a body like yours, or that they aren’t with someone who has a body like yours. Let alone has the confidence to show it off and celebrate it, and to share that with others. I decided to leave a comment because I saw the article and thought it was ridiculous that people were so judgemental and crapping on what’s likely one of your happiest memories, just because they’re jealous and/or miserable people. I’m sure for every negative comment, there are 100 people like me who think you look gorgeous. And as long as you and your husband are happy, fuck what anyone else thinks.
Congratulations on your beautiful wedding! I love your dress. You looked fantastic! I wish I had your shape! Just gorgeous!!
Please ignore the cruelty. Sadly behind a screen with a keyboard alone turns rude unkind people into real mean people alone.
One thing I think is incredibly important about your dresses is your daughter seeing her mum love herself the way she is.
I’m a busty lady myself and the modesty-obsessed environment I grew up in made me really hate my boobs (hard to love big boobs if you’re constantly told to hide them). My mum isn’t as busty as I am so I didn’t really have a role model on loving my body and dressing for it. It makes me so happy to think that a girl like Marlowe can see you loving YOUR body and YOUR clothes so she is better equipped to love herself and dress for herself.
but see, you’re kind of doing it too by saying “modesty obsessed” when really if you felt shame THAT’S ON YOU. don’t become the thing you hate most to see… judging women who feel lovely being modest. 45 years ago my wedding dress had a “keyhole” opening on the bodice & my groom wasn’t happy with THAT. but it was ridiculous & I was VERY modestly dressed. Just be happy being you. nothing wrong with modesty if that’s your vibe. both Olivia & Eva were beautiful.
Agreed. We are f@#$ed! The women hating on you must have been made to feel so ashamed I’m sure that they just can’t fathom letting you get away with it. I agree with the fact that even though I see something and don’t love it, I would never take the time to tell someone that. The whole world is filled with hypocrisy right now which you evidenced here by showing neither woman did it “right.” I appreciate everything you’ve been vulnerable with in your posts you really make me think sometimes and you have inspired confidence in myself. Thank you.
You looked absolutely gorgeous! It’s your day and some people tried to ruin it. Fuck them I am so tired of people sitting behind keyboards bullying people. Absolutely disgusting and it has been on my mind a lot lately. People need to relearn kindness and how to shut the hell up. You go girl. you are a wonderful person and a great mom, wife, daughter,ex wife etc. Fuck em I say.
Hello, Congratulations on your wedding, Eva, and many blessings for your marriage! Since you have asked for conversation, I could contribute the single thought that came to my woman’s mind, was that the neckline of your dress was offering a distraction and wasn’t subtle or discreet. Nothing about hate, shame, ulterior motives…just that it seemed unnecessary to draw people’s eyes to most of your breasts…See, Eva, I’m married, too. My husband manages a team of nurses, mostly female – who aren’t required to wear scrubs. They wear street clothes and he has said many times, “I don’t know where I’m supposed to put my eyes”…or, “I can’t understand what these women are trying to say with the way they dress ” Audrey Hepburn has said that clothing is of the utmost importance for creating that first impression to others about who you are as a person. I agree with that, in general. I guess I would add to that, in the world that we live in now, so sexually charged in language, clothing for even very young girls, and what is offered in movies, maybe a little more modesty in dressing, would decrease the staring of strangers and increase the allure that imagination can generate.
You looked beautiful and happy and that’s all that really matters. I will NEVER understand why WOMEN are so critical and can say such hurtful things about someone’s body or appearance. Shouldn’t we be lifting each other up with positivity? The only thing we can do is pray for people like that as it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Sad that this still goes on and hope the young women of today are smarter and stronger than anyone’s opinion of them! Cheers to you and your happiness xo
I thought you looked beautiful(truly lit from within) on your wedding day, and obviously I saw your breasts. but it’s not my business to SAY anything! Unless what I say is kind and not about your body! It is NO ONE’S business how you dress. How people have the time to say mean, vile, hurtful things, I just don’t know. Obviously they are unhappy with themselves, and unhappy people wish to make others feel the same. I do think we will never be free from criticism about our bodies. The patriarchy has much to do with that. Please continue to be true to yourself(I’m sure you will;)). Congratulations to you and Ian!!
First off, Eva you were STUNNING and beautiful and you looked happier than you have in a long time. Secondly, the turtles were turtling and they ALSO looked amazing. Screw the haters. Congratulations 🍾 and cheers to your new marriage journey with someone who looks at you with so much love! 💗
I’m glad you had a great wedding day. Let’s face it – you are a public figure, and people are going to make comments, good, bad, or indifferent. It’s just part of the age we live in now, and should not be any kind of surprise.
Dear Eva,
As a happily married man of 48 years I salute you for your bravery.
I thought and still think you are a beautiful woman…your dress was terrific and to hell with the nay sayers.
Continue to be sexy and F those who attack you.
Peace,
M
Hi Eva. Please don’t let mean people on the internet get you down. You looked wonderful in your wedding dress. Wear whatever you want and don’t worry about what people say about it.
I without a doubt thought you looked stunning in your wedding dress! Anyone who feels the need to belittle others behind the cloak of a keyboard are not people that I would listen to. It always seems that the vitriol, even though less than the feeling of cheer for you, always seem to come out screaming louder. Just turn to those around you that love you, and to those of us that admire you, but don’t personally know you and believe us when we say you looked beautiful and how you look on your special day is ALWAYS up to you! The technology of today, while allowing us to connect in ways we couldn’t before, can also be a double edged sword. Some people have forgotten the old adage that “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
For what it’s worth I think you looked stunning. Best wishes to you and your family.
‘You can’t create chaos in the lives of others and expect peace to come to yours’
You go girl! Most people online are trolls that are unconfident and jealous hence they want to hurt others to feel good.
Take care 😘
I first encountered you on Californication. You looked amazing then just as you do now. Ignore the haters!
Best wishes from Scotland.
Your wedding dress is incredible. It’s absolutely gorgeous. It’s unique and beautiful. I love it. Don’t let any one tell you different. It really is very pretty. AND YOU ROCKED IT!
Why are you giving this light, and thus taking away from the afterglow of your special day? You spent paragraphs justifying your boobs, your dress choice, the cruelty of online trolls. And….que sera sera.
I’m sorry but I don’t find Barbie’s, “It’s impossible to be a woman” sentiment uplifting or forward-thinking. Just be you, with no explanation. Your mom is one of the coolest, bad ass women out there. Do you think she would give a rat’s ass what people think of her boobs in a picture.
One final note, if you just share these pics with your followers, and not with People Magazine, you would not have to process so much “emotional aggression.” Life is beautiful. Just let the trolls troll, enjoy this magical time in your life, and live in gratitude.
Congrats and blessings!
I cannot believe that anybody said anything derogatory about your wedding dress. .I think you looked stunning and beautiful! Your breasts looked demurely sexy and you looked so very happy….and any negative comments should be ignored and remember that I thought you looked lovely!!…🙂
Eva. You were and are a real woman your wedding day and everyday. Your body confidence shows it. The “ women” who made cruel and disgusting remarks were NOT women. Real women don’t tear each other down. They were girls. Junior high mean girls. Surround yourself with with real women and move past those girls still trying to find their way.
I’m always rather appalled when stuff like this happens. Trolls will always be trolls and that sucks, but it also highlights the thought process – that women will never do the right thing and somehow we’re all going to listen and internalize it and do what we’re told. Ridiculous.
Personally, I loved both dresses. If I had boobs like yours, I’d have rocked a dress like that, too! 🙂 but I don’t, and that’s totally OK. My wedding dress was chosen because it had pockets lol gotta do what works for you. (Honestly, my first thought when I saw the pictures was just, ‘Holy shit! She looks gorgeous’) The point is to wear what you love or what compliments your body or whatever you want because you can. I’m glad you had a lovely wedding. <3
Hopefully we can encourage the people around us to lead with more empathy. I'm not holding my breath, but I hope people will pull back from the ledge at least a little.
You continue to do you, Eva.
No one can please everyone. This we know.
As for the mean girls:
Rudeness has always been the tell. We hear you loud and clear and know you are not to be trusted with our hearts or our secrets. That’s why your friends won’t really confide in you about their lives, I mean, not really. Understand?
Check yourself next time, and make apologies when you f*ck up, because we all do.
Thank you. You’ve said it all so beautifully, succinctly, gracefully. I’m so tired of the constant criticism and comments. You’re so right.
You are absolutely beautiful and one of the most gorgeous brides I’ve ever seen. I’m saddened by the angry trolls who would attempt to ruin such a joyous occasion. As a fellow large breasted mama/woman, I must thank you for pointing out that it is much more flattering to have full breasts artfully on display if you have larger breasts. I completely agree with you. My best wishes, always.
This really moved me, as someone who has spent the past news cycle learning that because I am a childless woman with a cat I am viewed as worthless to society. I thought you looked absolutely gorgeous on your wedding day, not that it matters what I thought about YOUR DAY, and you’re so (depressingly) spot-on that trolls gave Olivia Culpo the same vitriol for making the exact opposite style choice. As a wise childless cat lady once said, SHAKE IT OFF!
YOU LOOKED BEAUTIFUL ON UR WEDDING DAY.IGNORE THE HATERS WHO R ALWAYS PEOPLE THAT R UNHAPPY IN THEIR OWN LIVES.SO BEING RUDE AND HATEFUL TO OTHERS MAKES RHEM FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES.SO PLEASE DON’T LET THOSE TROLLS RUIN ANY MORE OF UR DAYS.
I think you looked AMAZING and beautiful and happy! F*** the haters. It makes me sad that hateful people made you cry about your wedding dress. If you were flat chested they would have complained about that so F**** “those people” you know the ones who have to ruin others happiness in order to be happy with themselves (when it does not work which is why they have to do it over and over but are still miserable) they deserve no place in your mind about your wedding day so F*** them and live on with your beautiful family!
Beautifully written. To Sarandon’s daughter: What’s important about a wedding dress is how it makes the bride (and bridegroom) feel. It’s a beautiful dress. Own it and be proud of it. Don’t let envious and negative people have a say in how it made/makes you feel. Embrace the joy and beauty of your wedding day and don’t let stranger’s negative opinions have a say in it. After all, you don’t know them and they don’t know you. Chances are they’d never say to your face what they wrote as some self-entitled keyboard judge. Congratulations on your marriage. May it be blessed with love and joy!
Don’t worry at all, you are beautiful! And too bad a few small minds had to express their points of view and hurt your feelings. Rather, they could have seen 2 voluptuous breasts held in a caldron of lace…so too bad for them, they are the ones missing out!
Never doubt you beauty, nor your generous glorious breasts!
Take care and enjoy a lifetime time of happiness with your true love! ♥️
From a mom of 4 breastfed babes:-)
Preach girl!!! You looked stunning!!!
A bride should wear whatever makes her feel beautiful and confident on her wedding day. Too many people will post comments online they would never have enough nerve to say to someone personally.
I know that Susan’s daughter don’t know me and I doubt if she’ll even see this, but I just thought I’d stick my 3 cents in. Sweetheart, first off you looked gorgeous in your wedding dress. As far as your boobs go then I figure if some folks don’t like ‘em then they got 359 other directions they can look and they won’t have to see the girls or you or anything else that “offends” them! There’s always gonna be some ignorant dumb ass that’s gonna make some ignorant dumb ass comment! I look at it like if ya don’t like what ya see then nobody is making ya look and if all you have to bring to the grown ups table is stupid remarks then get your ass back to the kiddy’s table and “SHUT THE FUCK UP”!!! Now I’m done and while I don’t apologize for anything I said, I do apologize for my colorful language , but people being stupid and making stupid remarks bring that out of me and sometimes that’s the only way you can get your point across to those stupid people. They might also need to get a life and quit being jealous over their own two little boobs that look like a couple of fried eggs, with or without runny yolks, hanging on a wall. If it’s the fellers making the comments then I am so sorry that this young lady’s girls offend ya every time ya roll over in bed and look at north south girls that are pointing due south when she’s standing and pointing east, west or god only knows where they’re gonna point when she’s laying down!!! Again, to anybody I might have offended for my colorful language and to the others that are like catfish, all mouth and no brains, all I have to say to y’all is go fuck yourselves!!!
Here’s the thing. A wedding is a day about celebrating the love of two people and anyone commenting negatively on any aspect…. ANY aspect of that, really should keep that to themselves or re-evaluate their own lives and why they are commenting negatively on one of the happiest days of someone else’s life. Is it making them feel better? And for the record, both brides looked gorgeous, not that my opinion matters in the slightest. What i do want to get across is that i am beyond happy for you Eva and your family and i think your chest should be flattered that it received so much press. Nothing warmed my heart than watching Marlowe watch you and Ian take your first dance! Congrats to you all!
That dress is a work of art, the way it both clings and flows.
In terms of fellow-large-cup-ness, I am so impressed (and jealous!) of how the dress is able to support you and not squish/slip/all the annoying things. I am glad you were able to be comfortable in such a gorgeous dress on such an important day!
Bravo for speaking truth and grace to the nastiness that you encountered after your wedding!
I don’t know what it is that has unleashed the mean-spirited and self-righteous commentary from people, not only about your lovely dress, but about everything, all the time. Hiding behind anonymity while bullying is so incredibly cowardly and small minded. Do these folks have nothing better to do than criticize others?
Your honest, intelligent and dignified response shows the strength and beauty of knowing yourself and using your voice to rise above. Your husband is a lucky man and your children will thrive in a love that has no room for the buzz out there. Happy ever after to you all.
Beautifully written! Women need to lift each other up not tear each other down. You looked stunning and so did Olivia as all brides do on their wedding days. It’s a shame that the internet has emboldened people to write comments that most would never say to anyone in person. People have forgotten how to stop and think before speaking, or in this case, writing. Words matter and so does kindness!
You were/are beautiful and you have a good soul. That’s all that matters in this world. We need more of you in a world of “that”.
I loved the parallel you drew between the criticism both you and Olivia received – demonstrating that truly – women can’t win. We will be criticized for being too sexy or too prudish. Perhaps the point is just to criticize, to tear down, maim, hurt. It’s particularly cruel to strike on a woman’s wedding day – our meant-to-be-happily ever after! But that’s the point as well – to make the pain hurt the most. Honestly, I wish I had the answer to make the women who use their words like weapons stop spewing hate from behind their keyboards.