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Keeping Life Fun For The 365

Eva Amurri Martino shares her feelings about intimacy with your partner on holidays, and her drive to reinject fun in to her sex life 365 days a year

This post is sponsored by K-Y®

I’ve never shied away from talking about Sex on my blog– I think it’s one of the most pertinent topics in the Marriage and Motherhood space– and with tomorrow being Valentine’s Day, I know that love, sex, and intimacy are on almost everyone’s mind! But I also know that Holidays, and Valentine’s Day in particular, can mean a lot of pressure. I’ve been really open in the past about how much my own sex life has changed over the years with pregnancy and Motherhood, and when you’re trying to get “back on the horse” (for lack of a better term) the pressure to have the best sex ever just because it’s expected on a holiday can really do anything BUT set the mood.

A box of K-Y lubricant sits on the bedside table along with a bouquet of flowers and a stack of books in the Master Bedroom of Eva Amurri Martino's Connecticut home

Eva Amurri Martino reads a box of K-Y lubricant in the master bedroom of her Connecticut home

That’s why I’m so excited about K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants® , and their awesome messaging for Valentine’s Day…and all the other 364 days of the year! K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants® is a really fun, playful twist on your normal lube. It’s a pair of lube tubes that come together– one for you, (that gives one sensation when applied) and one for your partner (that gives a different sensation).It’s Science, baby! LOL. What I love the most about K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants® is how exploratory it is. I personally feel that one of the best parts of being in a committed relationship is that you can feel free to explore, investigate, and be playful sexually with each other without feeling like the other person will judge you. In a lot of ways, the pressure is off– especially when you’ve been together a while like Kyle and I have. Sometimes that lack of pressure can be bad– raise your hand if you get lazy about creating sexy time with your partner…ME! But sometimes the lack of pressure can be a great way to join together and put the fun back in your sex life.

Eva Amurri Martino makes a Valentine's Day gift bag for her husband that includes a box of K-Y lubricant

Eva Amurri Martino decorates a Valentine's Day gift bag

Eva Amurri Martino holds a box of K-Y lubricant on the master bed of her Connecticut home

K-Y® recently worked with Wakefield Research to conduct a survey of 1,000 US adults in committed relationships, and one of the statistics they found was that most couples feel tons of pressure to have sex on Holidays (Hi, Valentine’s Day), but that most individuals (86%) reported that sex actually felt the best when it was spontaneous. And 92% of people say that sex always feels better with a lubricant (I agree wholeheartedly with that!). This Valentine’s Day, I’m joining K-Y® to promote the idea of making sex fun 365 days a year. You don’t need a special day to spark that intimacy with your partner, and to have the best sex ever!

Eva Amurri Martino sits on her master bed and decorates a Valentine's Day gift bag

Eva Amurri Martino puts a box of K-Y lubricant in to a Valentine's Day gift bag

Eva Amurri Martino puts a box of K-Y lubricant in to a Valentine's Day gift bag

This year for Valentine’s Day, I’m gifting Kyle K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants® set. I’m sure when he opens his gift bag he’s going to be thrilled that I took the time to prioritize our sex life (that doesn’t happen as much as it should, if I’m being brutally honest ) and I love that there is a whole aspect of this product that is about ME as an individual in our sex life. I think that going in to any sexual encounter recognizing that each person has their own sexual journey for themselves, and that something really beautiful can be made by bringing those together, is a really healthy perspective. I plan on making this type of playfulness in our sex life something that we can enjoy on all the other days of the year besides Valentine’s Day. I can’t wait to try out the lube set! TMI, maybe, sorry. Hahah. I mean we do have two kids, people!

Eva Amurri Martino wears a pair of lacy pajamas and holds a Valentine's Day gift bag on the bed of her Connecticut home

A gift bag on the bed of Eva Amurri Martino's Connecticut home

Are you going to try K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants®, or have you in the past? I would love to hear about your experience if you feel comfortable sharing!!

Eva Amurri Martino holds a box of K-Y lubricants for VAlentine's Day

Photographs by Lindsay Madden Photography

My Pajama Set by Adore Me

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11 Comments

  1. Christina says:

    This is a great idea 😉

    02.13.18Reply
  2. I love you are so honest and open!! But we put so much pressure on ourselves and each other to be ready, to perform. What works for you and your life may or may not work for another woman or man. How much it happens is up to you. Do you know how many women have sex just so their partner won’t be mad, upset, or violent? These “holidays” are ways for retailers to make money. Everyday can be a fun, sexy day based on what you need and want. I’m all about laughing and enjoying yourself!

    02.13.18Reply
    • Meaghan says:

      I feel like that was the whole message of the post.

      02.13.18Reply
  3. Lauren says:

    Haven’t tried that specific KY, but in general, we really appreciate their products 😉 i like the idea of a … *dirty* gift!

    02.13.18Reply
  4. Megan says:

    My fiancé got this for us back when we were just dating, and it’s great! Happy Valentine’s Day to you and KYle! Just realized the first two letters in Kyle’s name LOL Enjoy!

    02.13.18Reply
  5. sarahf says:

    I love you Eva, but to be honest, this seems super off brand for you. Let me preface this by saying, I’m no prude. Not at all. I’m all about you sharing intimate details with us and have always found your frankness to be so refreshing! Please don’t stop! But, this came completely out of left field. Aside from the fact that you’re shilling lube and taking a jarring left turn from cutesy lingerie sets or talking about postpartum sex and the hurdles that come with it, it’s the KY brand. At least promote a natural, organic brand of lube, which would be much more in line with the other products you use in your home. I hope this isn’t seen as trolling or trying to be negative, I just felt compelled as a long time reader and fan to let you know that I found it hard to get through this post without getting an icky feeling.

    02.14.18Reply
    • Hi,
      I definitely respect your difference in opinion on this one. You are entitled to it! While I don’t expect you to agree with me on every last thing that I like or promote, I thought I would share with you my motivation to help you understand.
      It’s always been my intention to share all sides of what I’m going through in life, motherhood, what have you. All aspects of my life aren’t cutesy, just as all aspects of my life aren’t sad, challenging or depressing (as when I speak to PTSD, miscarriage, postpartum depression , or complicated feelings about motherhood). There are so many things that make me who I am, and there are so many differing things that make up what I’m interested in at any given time. This product is something I’m genuinely excited about. Not only because in this phase of my postpartum sex life I have moved from the stage of awkwardness and self judgement to actually wanting a bit of a thrill to be found in out-of-the-ordinary sexual experiences– but also because I wholeheartedly promote the ideals and ideas that K-Y is advocating with this campaign. I think it’s SO important to put the fun and the spontaneity back in to sex. In fact– in my marriage at this point, it is crucial. For both of us. I really loved that K-Y had researched why we as sexual beings in relationships feel so much pressure to perform on holidays, and that in reality all we really want (again, based on numbers) is to connect with our partners without pressure. I love the idea that we should focus on intimacy and not on the checklist of having sex itself. I’m proud to be a public face supporting this concept, no matter the brand. Turns out, I actually do like the product also.
      By the way, while I try to always be as all natural as possible, I am not exclusively all natural. (Like most people probably)
      I just use what I like and what I’m interested in, and I expect others to do the same. Of course I respect your opinion, and would never force you to like something just because I do!

      All my best,
      EAM

      02.15.18Reply
      • sarahf says:

        Much appreciate the reply! You’re the real deal, and I can respect that no matter what. Keep it up, girl, and thanks for the additional insight.

        02.16.18Reply