In my New Year’s Intentions post I revealed that Kyle and I have be intensely and intentionally working on our marriage in couple’s therapy for the past few months. It’s been at times a very painful process– but overall it’s been incredible how much better we have learned to communicate in such a short period of time with somebody teaching us the tools to accomplish it. One of the things we have realized and learned is that we need to start creating more low-risk opportunities to really connect and have a FUN time together. Low-risk meaning that we don’t have to book a sitter, spend a ton of money, or even leave the house to connect. Sometimes the added pressure to make the night “count” when it’s a whole production can actually stress both of us out– especially while we continue to work on our relationship and any given night can feel far from “perfect”. We have been focusing our attention on finding ways to have fun Date Nights right here at home! I think this is such a great idea for the cold Winter months (who really wants to get bundled anyway), and especially for parents with tiny kids who might have trouble committing to a full night on the town. Today I thought I’d share some fun ideas to create that special time with your partner without leaving the house!
I thought I’d kick off my recommendations with a special Secret Weapon that always starts our Date Night at home with a smile– my home mixed Whiskey Sours! I don’t know how or when this became the signature drink of our special hang time at home, but it did and now it is! I love mixing up a couple of these for us after the kids go to bed, and know that it signifies grown up time just for the two of us. There is something more fun to me about having a yummy cocktail for these fun nights together, instead of my normal glass of wine with dinner. Anything to separate out the experience so it feels a bit more special than the norm!
In keeping with that idea– maybe it goes without saying– but NO SWEATS ALLOWED FOR DATE NIGHT AT HOME! You must wear actual clothes, that make you feel beautiful and fun, and that signify that you’re both ready for a flirty night together. He can’t wear sweats either. LOL. I like to wear jeans and a cute top that shows a bit of skin. My jeans in these photos are by Madewell, and my top is by CAMI! Rose gold choker by Argento Vivo.
Our Favorite Whiskey Sour…
- 6 oz high quality whiskey
- 1 oz simple syrup
- Juice of 1 lemon
- a splash of fresh Egg White (optional but recommended– it makes the drink frothy!)
Fill a cocktail shaker halfway with ice, and add all of the other cocktail ingredients. Shake vigorously for 20-30 seconds. Strain mixture over a glass with ice. Enjoy responsibly!
Fun ideas for Date Night at home…
Here are some of our favorite ideas we’ve tried at home! I think the most important thing is to make the evening feel special, turn your phones off, limit distractions, and just enjoy each other’s company. If the home you live in every day can feel special and spark romance if you let it!
Learn To Cook Together
There are lots of companies that take the guesswork out of cooking– and send you a new recipe plus the ingredients! Kyle and I loved it when we tried it, it almost felt like our own little cooking class. It was nice to push ourselves to try out something we hadn’t cooked before. Because they’re often subscription services, you can even make your date night a consistent thing!
Watching a movie is always a nice way to spend an evening, but make sure it’s super thematic by recreating the movie atmosphere! Pop some popcorn, pick up some candy, and settle in together, snuggled up with cozy blankets. It’s like High School all over again! Don’t forget to discuss the movie afterwards over a cocktail– Kyle and I always love talking about movies after we watch them, it’s a nice way to connect without having to talk about our own relationship (we do enough of that in therapy. LOL. )
This is one of our favorite ways to spend a Date Night at home– we even celebrated New Year’s Eve by playing Scrabble on our rug with a yummy cheese plate and champagne! It was such a blast. Another one of my faves is actually this super retro vintage Barbie Board Game. It’s so old school that it is hilarious, and the mood is really light and easy so it doesn’t get too competitive. I’ve had this since middle school and I’ve carted it around to any home I’ve ever lived in. It’s one of my oldest possessions! We also love LIFE, Hive, and Jaipur.
Picnic By The Fire
We also love lighting a fire, and setting up a nice spot to have a picnic dinner right at home. I wrote a post for Valentine’s Day a couple years ago where I outlined one of our favorite cozy ways to do this– and we recreate it all the time. The lamb chops in the post are one of my favorite meals to cook for a Date Night in! Plus, firelight and the change of having dinner in a new way creates a nice burst of spontaneity that is always appreciated!
Spa Night In
A really fun and romantic Date Night idea is to recreate the spa experience in your own home! Begin with a bubble bath with a special bath oil and lots of bubbles. Enjoy it together, then climb in to cozy robes. Apply a sheet mask, diffuse some essential oils, and then finish with a massage for each of you by each other with a beautiful massage oil! By the time you’re done you’ll feel pampered, relaxed, and so connected.
Do you ever have a Date Night at home with your partner? Please share any tried and true great ideas to inspire other couples!
Photographs by Courtney Ann Photography